Proverbs 9:13-17
“ A foolish woman is clamorous; she is simple and knows nothing. For she sits at the door of her house, on a seat by the highest places of the city, to call to those who pass by, who go straight on their way. Whoever is simple, let him turn in here.’ and as for him who lacks understanding, she said to him, stolen water is sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.”
“Clamorous” here is the Hebrew word #1993- “hamah” and in this verse, it is defined in the Hebrew- Chaldee Lexicon to mean:
“Internal emotion, from disquiet of mind arising from cares, solicitude, and pity. Used of a person wandering about from inquietude of mind, as the adulterous woman.”
In my personal experience, it has been most women and not most men who have a fear of commitment. Woman are taught how to catch a husband but not how to keep one. When a man is ready to settle down and marry, typically it is for life and they are serious. That is why they do not go about it quickly in general. When they do settle down, they generally do not stray if they were ready to marry in the first place. It is, more often than not, the woman who tears down her house with her own hands. It is the heart of the woman that becomes disquieted, that becomes disrespectful and in-submissive. This was the plight and choice of Eve in the garden and, if not taken dominion over, the plight of all women. Every female I have ever known struggles with this and must make a concerted effort to walk away from the temptation of the wicked one in this area. It is the disquieting of mind that causes disrespect toward the husband. The disrespect causes constant contentions. Where contention is, there is confusion and every evil work.
The woman who has not taken charge of her emotions but rather allows them to run at will finds herself disquieted and always searching for something else to satisfy her unsatisfied soul, even for a moment. This is one avenue that the devil uses to destroy marriage. On the one hand you have the wife who is disquieted and pities herself and her circumstances because her emotions tell her that what she has is less than what other have. On the other hand, you have the adulterous who is ravaged by her emotions and is bold enough to openly seek an illicit affair in order to quiet her unease. The man is caught in the middle because he is unable to manage his wife’s constant emotional eruptions and yet needs the love and affection only a woman can provide. Thus, the trap is set by the enemy as the husband and wife become increasingly offended at one another.
Of course these situations can manifest conversely but it is a rare instance that a man does not gain control of his emotions to such an extent that they drive him about ever seeking greener grass. The key then, is not separation or dissolution of the relationship; it is not extra-marital affairs or even the mental entertainment of an extra-marital affair. It is that the wife subdue her emotions under the word of God at all times and in all seasons so that she rests her hopes and expectations on her maker and not her husband. For Isaiah 54:5 states that “your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name.”
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